A type of trauma that I run into a lot doing counseling, is "Rape & Molestation Trauma's" Either the person has "Shut down" to their sexuality, and if they do make love.... they do not usually have orgasms. Also ones in this state sometimes are able to experience orgasms through self pleasuring, but not with their partner. Sometimes they can even have orgasms via an online chat or phone sex .... but not in person. And most do not know why they are not satisfied when making love with their partner, even when their partner is a lover that cares about them being pleasured. Or they are on the opposite direction and Hyper-Sexual. Many times they feel they don't deserve to be treated good by a partner, and don't have a good healthy self love. I have found that the key to inner healing takes a lot.... but is possible. The key thing .... which is the hardest thing you can ever do is to "Forgive" those who have violated you. And yes they don't deserve to be forgiven, and are slime in my book. But for you to move on and to be healed Is to forgive them. You might not be able to do this right off. And will involve some deep meditation and prayer. But if you do this, you will be set free of the bondage of this hurt and inner trauma. I know this even in my own life, As I had to forgive a relative that molested me at the age of two years old. And the relative was still living. I was able to not only forgive them, but able to love them before they passed on. © Larry Rust / Owen Avenue Publishing 2004